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Divorce Mediation vs Litigation: She Quit After 9 Years
August 27, 2026 · 00:32:34
Three years. $60,000 each. Still no divorce. Then they finished in four months, without a courtroom. Most divorces get trapped in a system built for fighting, not healing. Jen Love of Solace Divorce explains why the "bulldog attorney" approach leaves parents, kids, and even the lawyers emotionally wrecked, and what changes when divorce is handled with mediation, coaching, and real human support. Host Scott Bishop talks with Jen about the moment she walked away from nine years of litigation after realizing the courtroom was creating more harm than resolution. She shares how becoming a parent reshaped her perspective, why family law attorneys burn out inside high-conflict systems, and how Solace helps couples move through one of life's hardest transitions without turning it into a years-long war. You'll discover: Why Jen traded litigation for mediation after seeing what adversarial divorce does to childrenThe emotional weight most clients are carrying before they ever walk into a law officeHow nervous system regulation, coaching, and support change the outcome of a divorceHow one couple spent 3 years and $60,000+ each in court, then finalized in 4 months with SolaceWhat attorneys miss when they focus only on legal strategyWhy Jen believes the entire family law system needs a mindset shift Jen also shares how she helps people rethink co-parenting, holidays, and post-divorce relationships through a lens of gratitude and long-term family health. For attorneys who know the system needs to change, she opens the door to a new way of working, including upcoming attorney retreats in Crestone, Colorado. About Jen Love Jen Love is a family law attorney, mediator, and divorce coach at Solace Divorce, where she has guided more than 500 couples through a more mindful, intentional divorce process. Her work centers on treating the legal and emotional sides of divorce as one process instead of two separate battles. Essential listening if you're going through a divorce, supporting someone who is, or you're an attorney who knows there has to be a better way.